What gives you direction in life?
The Journey to Authenticity
In my life’s journey, I’ve often found that my shadow takes the lead, even when I resist. It frequently springs up, unexpectedly taking the driver’s seat. One day, I confronted my shadow, asking why it kept emerging so abruptly. The answer was enlightening: “Because you’re ashamed of me, pushing me back into darkness as if I’m not a part of you.”
For the first time, I understood what my shadow wanted—it sought recognition, understanding, and a chance to experience the light, to be reintegrated with me. I decided it was time for my shadow to be shared with the world. Now, I let my shadow occasionally give directions, not as a threat, but as a vital part of what makes me authentic.
I’ve set a rule, though: my shadow is not allowed to control or interrupt me during its ego tantrums.
Discovering the Shadow
The concept of the shadow self, as discussed by psychologist Carl Jung, describes aspects of our personality that remain hidden, like figures lurking in the dark, away from light. These shadows are not external or alien; they are intrinsic parts of who we are, merely veiled from view. The self that casts this shadow can regain control by making intentional efforts to bring these obscured parts into the light, embracing a fuller understanding of oneself.
Building on Jung’s ideas, I’ve pondered not just the characteristics of the shadow self, but also how shadows are created.
The Mind’s Dilemma
The problem begins when the mind cannot find a way to express its ideas through our behaviors and experiences. Instead of dissipating, these unexpressed ideas retreat into hiding, creating a “shadow self.” This shadow acts as a reservoir for suppressed thoughts and aspects of our identity that remain unexpressed. Consequently, the mind operates on two levels: consciously managing our direct actions and unconsciously influencing us through the shadow.
This dual operation of the mind aligns with W.E.B. Du Bois’s concept of double consciousness. It reflects the mind’s capacity to hold two simultaneous, yet conflicting perceptions: how we see ourselves and how we think others perceive us. Neglecting these aspects forces part of our identity into the shadow, forming an unconscious version of ourselves that continuously influences our behavior and choices.
Driving Force: Authenticity
So, what’s been giving me direction lately? My shadow self. I don’t let it take the wheel, but I’ve invited it to sit in the front passenger seat. By keeping it in the back, it will always strive to drive. Reconciling with this part of myself has enhanced my experiences and behaviors significantly. I’ve made peace with it, and now, I no longer function as an opaque obstacle, I allow light to shine through me, illuminating my shadow self.
So what has been giving me direction lately? A genuine desire for authenticity!
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