How do you unwind after a demanding day?

This is when you check in with yourself to see where you are emotionally, psychologically, physically, mentally and spiritually. It’s the process of shedding the roles and personas we use all day to interact in our social environments.

It’s not about mindfulness or awareness. Self-location and shedding is about finding “you” after losing yourself all day. It’s about letting go of the boss, the nurse, the childcare worker, the secretary, the mother, the wife, the girlfriend, the caretaker, the daughter, the sister, the brother, the pastor, the coach, and the therapist. These are all roles we play and in doing so, who we are gets lost. Only by shedding these roles and characters we play can we truly self-locate and unwind.

Often we get so busy we lose ourselves and when it’s time to unwind, we use most of our energy trying to unwind. Self-location and shedding is about honoring yourself in the moment, in whatever space you find yourself occupying. It’s allowing yourself to fully experience the moment you’re in, but in your authenticity.

How do you locate yourself when you aren’t even aware of who or where you are? What roles you played all day. When you unwind, what role are you in and what does the moment ask of you?

Unwinding in its deepest sense is not just about superficial rest because we’re tired. Genuine rest can only happen when we consciously shed and self-locate.

It’s allowing ourselves to touch our authenticity and that’s genuine rest. Unwinding gives the connotation that we are entangled and by unwinding, we rid ourselves of the entanglements we experience during the day.

For most of us, we unwind superficially and in the moment we are either too numb to care or we are too mentally exhausted to give a damn.

Some of us enjoy a movie, read a book, cuddle with a lover, drink a glass of wine, and sleep. But regardless of the mechanism we choose to unwind, have we actually located who we are? Does it matter if we allow ourselves to stay entangled as long as we can remain distracted?

Don’t abuse the moments you have to self-locate and she’d by numbing yourself with artificial distraction. Give yourself that genuine attention and care you deserve.

Before I can unwind, I have to shed all the roles and personas I have worn throughout the day. I have to let go of the roles I play and find myself. After I shed the debris of the day and self-locate, I can be fully in the moment with authenticity and that’s genuine unwinding.

To shed the day and self-locate, be aware that you don’t keep on the roles and personas in the moments you’re unwinding. If you don’t consciously shed and locate yourself, you’ll experience uninvited mental clutter that will interrupt your space.

Self-location is knowing in the moment who you are, what your needs are, and what your thoughts are. It’s about experiencing emotionally, psychologically, physically, spiritually and mentally the moment you’re in. It’s being vulnerable with yourself, loving yourself and knowing where the authentic you is located and allowing yourself to come out and breathe.

Let Me Be Clear

Shedding the day and self-locating is not a luxury but a necessity. It is crucial to our wellbeing, mental health and spiritual growth. It’s about allowing your true self to breathe, to feel, to experience the moment without any masks, roles or personas. It’s about being in the moment, not as a boss, a mother, a daughter, a pastor, a coach, a caretaker, but as you – the true, authentic you.

The process of shedding and self-locating is not always easy. It requires conscious effort, self-awareness and an honest desire to know and be with your true self. It involves letting go of the roles, personas, and expectations that you carry throughout the day, and being honest about your feelings, your needs and your thoughts.

It’s about asking yourself: Who am I in this moment? What do I need right now? What am I feeling? What am I thinking? It’s about honoring your emotions, needs, and thoughts, and giving them space to exist, without judgment or criticism.

As you shed the day and self-locate, you create space for your true self to emerge, for your authentic self to breathe and for your genuine self to experience the moment. It’s about creating a sanctuary within yourself, a safe haven where you can rest, rejuvenate and reconnect with your true self.

Remember, the process of shedding and self-locating is not a one-time event, but an ongoing journey. It’s a journey of self-discovery, self-understanding, and self-love.

So, the next time you find yourself exhausted from the roles and personas you’ve played all day, remember to shed the day and self-locate. Give yourself the gift of genuine rest, of authentic existence, of true self-experience. Because you deserve it. You deserve to know who you are, to be who you are, and to experience the moment as you are, without any masks, roles or personas.

Embrace the process of shedding and self-locating, and let your true self breathe, feel, and experience the moment with authenticity and love.